As your child continues to grow, they’ll start taking more responsibility. They may also share their thoughts and opinions more. Asking about school will help you stay involved in their classes and friendships! Learn more below about your 11-year-old’s development, resources available during and after school, and free events happening across NYC.
Milestones
Skills children develop as they play, learn, speak, act, and move are called milestones. Learn about milestones to help you understand your child's development and act early if you have concerns.
Around 11 years old, many children:
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Social
- Take care of everyday tasks such as brushing teeth and doing homework
- Understand the effects of their actions more
- Begin to rethink their own values and moral principles
- Begin to take responsibility for their own behavior
- Become more self-conscious about their image
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Communication
- Understand and use more advanced words
- Put together more complex sentences
- Pair words with facial expressions and gestures for emphasis
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Learning
- Are more able to challenge ideas
- Have a better long-term memory
- Develop solutions and answers based on logic
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Physical Development
- Have a bigger appetite, particularly during growth spurts or periods of higher activity
- Begin to show signs of puberty (especially girls)
- Show improved muscle strength
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Health
- Have 5 to 9 ounces of grains daily, including whole grains (1 ounce equals ½ cup oatmeal, ½ cup of rice, 5 whole wheat crackers, 1 slice of whole wheat bread, or ½ cup cooked pasta).
- Have 2 to 3 ½ cups of vegetables daily (such as ½ cup baby carrots, ½ cup broccoli, ½ avocado, and ½ cup sliced peppers).
- Have 1 ½ to 2 cups of fruits daily (such as 1 medium apple, 1 banana, and ½ cup berries). Fresh, frozen canned or dried all count.
- Have 4 to 6 ½ ounces of protein daily (1 ounce equals 1 egg, ¼ cup of beans or lentils, 1 tablespoon peanut butter, or ¼ cup tofu). Protein foods include beans, lentils, tofu, nuts and nut butter, poultry, fish, eggs and meat.
- Have 3 cups of dairy or suitable substitute daily. This includes whole cow’s milk, whole plain yogurt, or unsweetened fortified soy beverage.
- Drink water at or between meals for thirst.
Act early by talking to a doctor, teacher, or social worker if your child:
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Act Early
- Can't see things from another's point of view
- Avoids any type of sport or exercise
- Seems quiet, shy, and distant in conversation or in class
- Doesn't spend time with friends outside of school
- Can't read or tell a short story on their own using full sentences
- Doesn't want to eat meals with the family
Programs
Find the support your family needs to thrive
School's Out NYC (SONYC)
NYC Department of Youth & Community Development (DYCD)
After school program for middle schoolers
SONYC offers a mix of activities, including leadership, Science Technology Engineering and Math (STEM), literacy, academic help, sports, arts, and more.
School Food
NYC Department of Education (DOE)
Free school breakfast and lunch
NYC students can enjoy free breakfast and lunch every school day.
School-Based Health Centers (SBHC)
NYC Department of Education (DOE); NYC Department of Health & Mental Hygiene (DOHMH)
Free health care in schools
Students can get free health care in their school.