13-14 years

Tips, Tricks & Resources

What to Expect

Expect to see lots of change with your growing teenager! Teens at this age finish middle school, start high school, and begin to look for jobs. Their bodies continue to change and they show more interest romantic relationships. Things move quickly! As your teen’s friends become a more important part of their life, make sure you remain one as well. COMPASS offers hundreds of after school programs to keep your teen active. Scroll down to find out more.



Afterschool programs for students

Comprehensive After School System of NYC (COMPASS NYC)

NYC Department of Youth & Community Development

COMPASS NYC has hundreds of programs for young people in kindergarten through 12th grade.

A free City ID card


NYC Human Resources Administration

IDNYC can often be used as an official ID for all New Yorkers age 10 and over.

Paid summer experiences for youth

Summer Youth Employment Program (SYEP)

NYC Department of Youth & Community Development

SYEP provides youth between the ages of 14 and 24 with paid summer experiences for up to six weeks.


Development continues through adolescence and into adulthood! The following milestones highlight your teen's growth during this exciting time.

What most 13 - 14 years olds do at this age:

  • Social

    • Are able to better control emotions and behaviors
    • Begin to develop friendships with the opposite sex
    • Show more concern about body image, looks, and clothes
  • Communication

    • Understand the difference between figurative and literal language
    • Understand how words can be used in different contexts
    • Care more about issues of right and wrong
  • Learning

    • Read different kinds of books and write about their ideas
    • Show an improved vocabulary to speak about complex ideas
    • Master basic math: adding, subtracting, multiplication, division
  • Physical Development

    • Aware of sexuality
    • Use deodorant
    • Show visible signs of puberty
  • Health

    • Have 6 to 8 ounces of grains daily
    • Have 2 ½ to 3 cups of vegetables daily
    • Have 1 ½ to 2 cups of fruits daily
    • Have 3 cups of milk daily
    • Have 5 to 6 ounces of meat and beans daily
    • Have 1 hour of physical activity each day
    • Sleep about 8 - 10 hours per day

As your teen transitions into adulthood, look out for signs they may be at risk or troubled, including if they:

    • Have extreme shifts in mood, such as being happy and excited one minute and sad and depressed the next
    • Sleep too much, more than 10 hours per day or have changes in their sleep pattern
    • Spend too much time alone