12 Years

Discover tips, tools, and support for this age

Your child is developing fast during this exciting (and sometimes tiring) time. Their physical features may start to change as their thoughts and opinions develop. As they start to think more maturely and take more responsibility, you can help them set goals!     Learn more about your child’s development, explore resources available in and out of school, and find free activities for kids below.

Milestones

Skills children develop as they play, learn, speak, act, and move are called milestones. Learn about milestones to help you understand your child's development and act early if you have concerns.

Around 12 years old, many children:

  • Social

    • Are more patient and able to handle frustration
    • Are more able to think and act on their own and less dependent on parents
    • Start develop their own moral principles
    • Are more sensitive about their body and want more privacy
    • Enjoy the chance to take on extra responsibilities
    • May have sudden impulses, sometimes make bad judgments, and get more aggressive
  • Communication

    • Show signs of thoughtful listening
    • Switch between formal, casual, and slang language, based on audience
  • Learning

    • Get better at problem-solving
    • Challenge adult knowledge
    • Use long-term memory to understand and solve complex problems
  • Physical Development

    • Show advanced signs of puberty, including the growth of body hair
    • Have growth spurts at different rates and times
    • Start to develop different sleep patterns, sleeping longer and getting up later
  • Health

    • Have 5 to 9 ounces of grains daily, including whole grains (1 ounce equals ½ cup oatmeal, ½ cup of rice, 5 whole wheat crackers, 1 slice of whole wheat bread, or ½ cup cooked pasta).
    • Have 2 to 3 ½ cups of vegetables daily (such as ½ cup baby carrots, ½ cup broccoli, ½ avocado, and ½ cup sliced peppers).
    • Have 1 ½ to 2 cups of fruits daily (such as 1 medium apple, 1 banana, and ½ cup berries). Fresh, frozen canned or dried all count.
    • Have 4 to 6 ½ ounces of protein daily (1 ounce equals 1 egg, ¼ cup of beans or lentils, 1 tablespoon peanut butter, or ¼ cup tofu). Protein foods include beans, lentils, tofu, nuts and nut butter, poultry, fish, eggs and meat.
    • Have 3 cups of dairy or suitable substitute daily. This includes whole cow’s milk, whole plain yogurt, or unsweetened fortified soy beverage.
    • Drink water at or between meals for thirst.

Act early by talking to a doctor, teacher, or social worker if your child:

  • Act Early

    • Goes off topic in conversation often
    • Distances themself from relationships that were close
    • Starts to engage in high-risk behavior, such as using drugs and alcohol
    • Spends more and more time watching TV
    • Gains and loses weight quickly

Programs

Find the support your family needs to thrive

School's Out NYC (SONYC)

NYC Department of Youth & Community Development (DYCD)

After school program for middle schoolers

SONYC offers a mix of activities, including leadership, Science Technology Engineering and Math (STEM), literacy, academic help, sports, arts, and more.

School Food

NYC Department of Education (DOE)

Free school breakfast and lunch

NYC students can enjoy free breakfast and lunch every school day.

School-Based Health Centers (SBHC)

NYC Department of Education (DOE); NYC Department of Health & Mental Hygiene (DOHMH)

Free health care in schools

Students can get free health care in their school.