4 Years

Discover tips, tools, and support for this age

Your child’s speaking and social skills will continue to grow during this year in Pre-K! Keep spending time with and talking to them. Your time together will help your four-year-old learn as they begin to repeat their first and last name, tell stories, and describe their experiences. 

Scroll down to learn more about your child’s development, explore early education, and find free events for families in NYC.

 

The Early Childhood Family Toolkit

The Early Childhood Family Toolkit is a growing collection of our favorite resources for families with young kids. Discover learn-at-home tips and activities, health support, and more—all chosen by the NYC Department of Education.

 

Explore our favorite family resources

Brain Building

Learn through life's everyday moments

Using self-control and focus while eating a favorite treat can be fun. First, ask your child to look at the snack and describe what they see. Then smell it, touch it, and finally take just a little taste. Talk with them about what they did to help them wait.

See what your child is learning

Waiting helps your child practice self-control. This is an important skill to manage feelings and actions. They are also learning problem-solving skills like slowing down and taking a step back to see something in a new way.
Vroom

Milestones

Skills children develop as they play, learn, speak, act, and move are called milestones. Learn about milestones to help you understand your child's development and act early if you have concerns.

Around 4 years old, many children:

  • Social

    • Enjoy doing new things
    • Play games where they pretend to be "Mom" or "Dad"
    • Get more creative with make-believe play
    • Prefer to play with other children than alone
    • Cooperate with other children
    • Often can't tell what's real and what's make-believe
    • Talk about what they're interested in
  • Communication

    • Know some basic rules or grammar, such as how to use "he" and "she"
    • Sing a song or say a poem from memory, like "Itsy Bitsy Spider"
    • Tell stories
    • Say their first and last name
    • Answer questions, show understanding, and follow directions better
    • Describe experiences and express thoughts and feelings better
  • Learning

    • Learn through playing
    • Are able to tell reality from fantasy better
    • Quickly develop thinking skills like predicting, comparing, and reasoning
    • Name some colors and some numbers
    • Understand the idea of counting
    • Start to understand time
    • Remember parts of a story
    • Understand the idea of "same" and "different"
    • Draw a person with 2–4 body parts
  • Physical Development

    • Hop and stand on one foot up to 2 seconds
    • Catch a bounced ball most of the time
    • Pour liquid, mash own food, and use scissors with supervision
  • Health

    • Have 5 ounces of grains daily (such as 1 cup of breakfast cereal plus 1 large tortilla)
    • Have 1 ½ cups of vegetables daily (such as 3 medium carrots)
    • Have 1 to 1 ½ cups of fruits daily (such as 1 medium or large apple OR 1 to 1 ½ cups 100% fruit juice)
    • Have 2 ½ cups of milk daily
    • Have 4 ounces of meat and beans daily (such as 1 small chicken breast plus 1 egg)
    • Have 1 hour of adult-led physical activity
    • Sleep about 10–13 hours per day
    • Stay on schedule with shots

Act early by talking to a doctor, teacher, or social worker if your child:

  • Act Early

    • Can't jump in place
    • Has trouble scribbling
    • Shows no interest in interactive games or make believe
    • Ignores other children or doesn't respond to people outside the family
    • Resists dressing, sleeping, and using the toilet
    • Can't retell a favorite story
    • Doesn't understand "same" and "different"
    • Doesn't use "me" and "you" the right way

Programs

Find the support your family needs to thrive

Head Start

NYC Department of Education

Head start for 3 & 4 year olds

Early care and education for three- and four-year-olds and their families.

Pre-K for All (Pre-K)

NYC Department of Education

Free Pre-K for four-year-olds

Enroll your child in a free, full-day, high-quality Pre-K program.

Virtual Events

See what your family can do for free in NYC

10:00 AM - 4:00 PM

Grab & Go kits-Red Hook

Each Saturday morning, Red Hook will put out a new Grab and Go kids' craft…
11:00 AM - 3:00 PM

May Farmhouse Family Day: Outdoor Explorations

Kids and families can learn about the farm, play with toys and games, or simply enjoy a socially distanced spring picnic with your pod.
10:30 AM - 11:30 AM

Storytime in the Park

Jezz is back, LIVE and in Brower Park! All are welcome for this interactive program of…